This is one of the most important relationship shifts you can make.

If you can integrate just this one practice—not making the other person wrong—your entire relational dynamic will begin to shift. I’ve seen it with my clients, I’ve experienced it in my own life, and it’s a core principle I teach over and over again. Because it works.

Dating can be a wild ride—especially in the beginning stages.
The nerves. The fantasies. The constant overanalyzing.
Wondering if they’ll text back.
Trying to decipher mixed signals.
Falling for the potential instead of the person in front of you.

A lot of people have a list of ideal qualities they want in a partner—and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s important to know your non-negotiables and your dealbreakers so you can stay in alignment with the kind of relationship you actually want to create.

How we do one thing is how we do everything. If we have a pattern of thinking around lack and limitation, it will show up in every area of our lives—relationships, money, career, health. This is because it becomes the lens we unconsciously look through. When we shift the filter, the circumstances begin to shift too.

As I navigated a breakup a while back, I noticed something that stuck with me…

When I went to people for support, many of them jumped into “fix-it” mode. They wanted to give me advice or help me shift my mindset—rather than simply holding space for what I was feeling.

It came from love, but it actually created more pain.

Do you feel like the importance you place on a romantic partnership far outweighs all other areas of your life? Do you feel like if you don’t have a romantic partner then life is pretty meaningless? You’re not alone…

A couple of weeks ago I was at the beach with one of the sisters in my soul family, Martha. I was sharing with her that I am making a conscious effort to be mindful of who I share intimate details with regarding my relationship because I had been noticing that I was receiving some feedback that didn’t feel good to me. I have realized it is very important to hold the relationship sacred and be really mindful of who I share things with if breakdowns or challenges arise.

We have been programmed to believe that there is someone out there who will “complete” us and that until we find that one special person, we are incomplete…

We are made up of energy and our energetic field attracts or repels things to us depending on our resonance. This is why there are sayings like “when it rains, it pours” because whatever vibrational field we are existing in will attract more of the same to it…

Clients often ask me why their partner (or their parent, or their friend) didn’t respond to them with love and compassion. Why didn’t they create space for them to feel seen, heard, and loved?…

I recently started working with Peggy Rometo to help me refine my intuition and tap into that creative power that we all have to BE, DO, and HAVE whatever we can dream.

Perfectionism is a trauma response that is born when we were not allowed to make mistakes or judged harshly as children. Our subconscious mind imprints the belief that “I have to be perfect to be loved” and we project that impossible idea onto ourselves (and others but we’ll get to that in a bit)…

When there are challenges in a relationship they often don’t fall under the category of being rational or logical. If we are waiting for them to make sense like a math equation – we will continue to be perplexed and a way through them will elude us…

How many of you have found yourself trying to give from an empty cup? That’s been showing up for me again in new ways lately. I am moving through some of the deepest layers of my own healing and subconscious programming and it has taken me out a few times to be totally honest…

How do we create a life beyond our wildest dreams? By getting CLEAR on what we want to create and then taking actions to ALIGN with that vision. Think about all of the things that have been created on this planet and where they began – in someone’s mind. Your life is the same way. You have that creative power within you…

We experience the world through the lens of our individual belief system which is formed based on our past experiences. No two people will experience something the exact same way. Our individual mental filter creates our interpretation of what is happening between us and other people…

Today I had a session with my coach Jenn and I was going over how my last relationship ended and my confusion over the different versions of the person I had experienced. I was stuck on the question of did he ever love me? Was any of it even real? Was the version of himself that he showed me in the beginning authentic? Or was it a manipulation? I wanted to crack the code!

As I navigate the breakup the past three months, I can’t help but notice that when I go to people for support many of them want to help by “fixing it” or giving me advice, rather than just holding space for my experience and allowing me to be exactly where I’m at emotionally. 

I just had a session with my Coach Santo @rudysantocastro and we dove deep. We talked about why we are on the planet and what it really means to love. We talked about the abandonment wound that we both share and how it comes up full force when relationships are threatened or when they end. We talked about how all things eventually end…

Between the ages of 0-7 we decide our core beliefs about the world based on our experiences. The most impactful experiences cause us to create beliefs that are then imprinted into our subconscious mind and we project them out onto the world and they are mirrored back to us (like a movie screen). For example, if we have a belief that “love is hard,” we will find evidence to prove ourselves right and if we believe “love is everywhere,” we will find evidence to prove that belief right…