Your Patterns Will Keep Showing Up In Every Relationship
How we do one thing is how we do everything. If we have a pattern of thinking around lack and limitation, it will show up in every area of our lives—relationships, money, career, health. This is because it becomes the lens we unconsciously look through. When we shift the filter, the circumstances begin to shift too.
Relationships, especially the intimate ones, are powerful mirrors. They reflect back the places where we are still operating from fear, shame, or a sense of not-enoughness. If we carry a belief that we are fundamentally unlovable or not enough, we will keep finding ourselves in dynamics that reinforce this story. Not because we consciously want to suffer, but because the nervous system is wired for what's familiar—even if it's painful.
We might say we want a healthy, secure, loving relationship—but if our subconscious blueprint for love was built on chaos, inconsistency, or performance-based worth, then anything steady or safe might feel boring, unfamiliar, or even triggering.
Without this awareness, we end up chasing something new to escape the discomfort. We move from one relationship to the next, or one job to the next, hoping this time it will be different—but we end up creating the same experience over and over, just with different characters playing the role.
That’s why it’s not about who you're with or where you work—it’s about what’s going on inside of you.
Take a moment to think about the patterns that repeat in your life. Do you:
Struggle with female authority figures?
Attract emotionally unavailable partners?
Experience constant financial stress despite your effort?
Bottle up your feelings until you erupt?
Feel overly responsible for others?
These aren't random. They are clues.
We repeat what we don’t repair. And life, in its wisdom, will keep presenting us with opportunities to face ourselves until we do.
The good news? Patterns are not permanent. Once we bring them to the light, meet them with compassion, and rewire the beliefs that created them, we create space for something new. This is the deep work I do with my clients—we don’t just talk about the patterns, we get to the root and shift them from the inside out.
You don’t have to keep living in the loop.
Liberation becomes possible when you stop running and turn toward what hurts, with the right support.
If you’re ready to stop repeating cycles and create a new way of relating—with yourself, others, and life—I'd love to connect.
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