The Truth About Love Addiction (And How to Actually Heal)
For most of my life, I thought my problem was wanting love too much.
I was the girl who felt things deeply. Who gave her heart fast. Who stayed in relationships far past the expiration date because I believed if I could just be better—less needy, less reactive, more secure—then maybe I’d finally get the love I craved.
But the truth is, I wasn’t craving love.
I was craving safety.
Validation.
A sense of wholeness I had never felt on my own.
And that’s what love addiction really is.
It’s not about being too emotional.
It’s about being disconnected from yourself—and using romantic intensity as a way to fill the void.
I know the cycle well:
The butterflies.
The fantasy.
The obsession with “are they the one?”
The anxiety when they pull away.
The pain when it ends, that felt like death… followed by the search for the next hit of connection.
It feels like love (or what we have been programmed to understand love to be).
But it’s actually wounding meeting wounding.
At its core, love addiction is a nervous system pattern.
It’s your body bracing for abandonment before anything has even happened.
It’s your inner child begging to be chosen—so you abandon yourself to chase someone else.
And no amount of logic will interrupt it.
Because it’s not a thinking problem.
It’s a feeling problem.
A body problem.
A subconscious imprint problem.
Most people stay stuck here for years and some even die from it - this is not an exaggeration - those who have experienced it, know..
They bounce between unavailable partners, intense highs and lows, or they shut down altogether and swear off love and exist in emotional anorexia.
But there’s another way.
Healing from love addiction doesn’t come from trying harder or dating better.
It comes from finally turning inward—to rewire your nervous system, tend to the parts of you that feel unworthy, and learn how to hold yourself through the waves.
That’s what changed everything for me.
When I stopped outsourcing love and started rebuilding my relationship with me—my patterns began to shift. My boundaries got clearer. My energy softened. And love no longer felt like something I had to chase.
It became something I attracted—naturally, effortlessly—because I was no longer abandoning myself to get it.
If you see yourself in any of this, you’re not crazy, broken, or needy.
You’re just running an old survival strategy.
And the beautiful thing about patterns is… they can be healed.
If this speaks to your soul, know this:
You are worthy of a love that feels safe, not just intense.
You are worthy of being met—fully, deeply, and consistently.
And you don’t have to keep losing yourself to try and find that.
The way out is the way in.
And I would be honored to walk that path with you. Book your free consultation call today!