You Say You Want Love—But Are You Actually Available For It?
Let’s get real: You say you want love. But are you actually available for it?
It’s easy to make a list of everything you want in a partner. It’s harder to look at how you might be blocking it, avoiding it, or having you choose people who are the exact opposite of what you claim you want.
You want consistency—but you’re attracted to the person who keeps you guessing. You want emotional safety—but you find “the nice ones” boring. You want real partnership—but you keep chasing the thrill of someone who doesn’t know what they want.
If this is landing for you, you’re not alone. What is likely happening is that you are wired for what’s familiar—not what’s healthy.
If love was chaotic growing up…If you had to overfunction, fix, perform, or parent your parents…Then healthy closeness intimacy might feel unfamiliar or even unsafe. Not because it is, but because it doesn’t match the blueprint your system was built on.
So when someone shows up steady, grounded, and available…It doesn’t feel like a rush (your perception of love). It feels dull. Because love has always felt like anxiety, like proving, like a high you have to chase. And your body’s been mistaking that survival chemistry for connection.
This is why so many people are stuck. They want love. But they’re unavailable for the very thing they’re asking for. Not because they’re broken or unworthy—but because no one taught them how to be emotionally available to themselves first.
That’s what this work is. It’s not just dating strategy or “raise your standards” talk. It’s the deep, root-level work of healing what’s underneath the pattern—so you stop attracting from your wounds and start choosing from your truth.
In my coaching, we uncover the beliefs, nervous system patterns, and emotional imprints that are shaping your relationships—even when you think you’re doing everything right.
If you’re done performing, striving and beating yourself up. If you’re ready to feel peace, safety, and mutual love…And if you’re ready to invest in the version of you who can hold that…Book a 15 minute consult call.
The life and love you want isn’t out of reach. But it does require you to become available in a way you may never have been before.