Writing a New Story After a Breakup
Obvioulsy breakups are hard. They’re painful, disorienting, and they can really shake the foundation of how we see ourselves and experience life day to day, when we are used to having this person in our lives and now there is a void.
But here’s the truth: breakups also hold the power to become a massivecatalyst for healing and growth.
Hi, I’m Jess Hendrick. I’m a relationship, dating, and breakup coach. My passion is helping you heal and come back home to the most important relationship you’ll ever have—the one with yourself.
And today, I want to ask you something:
Since your breakup, what’s the story that’s been looping in your mind?
What’s the narrative that keeps playing on repeat?
Because the story you tell yourself holds so much power.
When we go through something painful, our survival brain kicks in. It tries to make sense of what happened. The thoughts and stories we are telling feel true—but they’re often tied to old wounds, past experiences, and subconscious beliefs we didn’t even realize we were carrying.
These stories might sound like:
“I’m not good enough.”
“I’ll always be abandoned.”
“Maybe if I were different, they would’ve stayed.”
Something must be wrong with me
But here’s the thing: just because a thought feels true doesn’t mean it is - especially when it is coming from a dysregulated/anxious/fearful state. And once we can identify these narratives, we have a powerful window into the subconscious. We can begin to rewrite the script.
So, I invite you to take a moment right now.
Pause. Breathe.
And ask yourself:
What is the story I’m telling myself right now—about me, about the relationship, about life?
Write it down. No shame. No judgment. Just awareness.
Once you bring the current narrative into the light, it no longer has control over you.
Now comes the empowering part:
What do you truly desire?
What would your life look like if you gave yourself full permission to dream, to heal, to be open to love again — using this info to do things a bit differently this time around?
What if your new story began like this:
"I am so happy and grateful now that…"
Use this sentence stem and write the life you desire. Imagine it fully. Let nothing be off-limits.
And then... notice.
What feelings come up? Resistance? Doubt? A voice saying, “That’s not possible for me”?
Those reactions are gold. They’re clues pointing toward subconscious blocks in your mind that are ready to be healed.
You don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to be fully “healed” to have healthy love.
You just need to be willing to meet yourself where you are—and work with what’s coming up inside you (with compassion for yourself).
If you’re ready to go deeper and uncover what’s been keeping you stuck, I’m here to walk with you through it.
Let’s milk this breakup for all it’s worth and use it to help you heal whatever is blocking you from what your heart desires.
I want you to start asking yourself: What could be possible here – beyond my current story?
If you need some support with this. I’ve got you. Book a connection call or a session today and let’s walk this path together.