You can have the deepest intention to show up as your best self in love — but at some point, you're going to get triggered. You’re going to say something you didn’t mean, shut down, or react in a way that causes disconnection instead of closeness.

One of the biggest issues I see in my work with individuals and couples with relational challenges is the tendency for us to focus on what the other person is doing/not doing. 

We need THEM to show up differently so that WE can be okay. We become hyper-focused on their issues which conveniently takes the focus off of our own part, which (spoiler alert) is the ONLY thing we can actually change or control – OUR PART!

Within any painful dynamic is a profound opportunity for healing and liberation. Whatever is showing up in our lives and creating pain is revealing to us the places and spaces within us where we are not yet free…

We humans are meaning-making machines. We see the world through the lens of our own personal belief system and then we give it meaning. The way we interpret things in the present moment is determined by our past experiences…

We experience the world and our relationships through the lens of our personal belief system. Conflict can occur when our INTERPRETATION of what is happening is different than someone else’s. We think that everyone’s experience is the same as ours – but that is where we are misguided.

Heartbreak and heartache is part of the human experience and can hurt just as much as a physical injury. Our society doesn’t seem to view it this way or create the time and care needed to allow our hearts to heal in the same way we would need time and care for a broken bone to heal…