How many of you have found yourself trying to give from an empty cup? That’s been showing up for me again in new ways lately. I am moving through some of the deepest layers of my own healing and subconscious programming and it has taken me out a few times to be totally honest…

How do we create a life beyond our wildest dreams? By getting CLEAR on what we want to create and then taking actions to ALIGN with that vision. Think about all of the things that have been created on this planet and where they began – in someone’s mind. Your life is the same way. You have that creative power within you…

We experience the world through the lens of our individual belief system which is formed based on our past experiences. No two people will experience something the exact same way. Our individual mental filter creates our interpretation of what is happening between us and other people…

Today I had a session with my coach Jenn and I was going over how my last relationship ended and my confusion over the different versions of the person I had experienced. I was stuck on the question of did he ever love me? Was any of it even real? Was the version of himself that he showed me in the beginning authentic? Or was it a manipulation? I wanted to crack the code!

As I navigate the breakup the past three months, I can’t help but notice that when I go to people for support many of them want to help by “fixing it” or giving me advice, rather than just holding space for my experience and allowing me to be exactly where I’m at emotionally. 

I just had a session with my Coach Santo @rudysantocastro and we dove deep. We talked about why we are on the planet and what it really means to love. We talked about the abandonment wound that we both share and how it comes up full force when relationships are threatened or when they end. We talked about how all things eventually end…

Between the ages of 0-7 we decide our core beliefs about the world based on our experiences. The most impactful experiences cause us to create beliefs that are then imprinted into our subconscious mind and we project them out onto the world and they are mirrored back to us (like a movie screen). For example, if we have a belief that “love is hard,” we will find evidence to prove ourselves right and if we believe “love is everywhere,” we will find evidence to prove that belief right…

I often get asked: “How does relationship coaching work?” “Do I need to be in a romantic relationship to work with you?” and the answer is no. The deeper answer to this question is that ALL OF LIFE IS A RELATIONSHIP – we are all in relationship to other people, to money, to our health and most importantly we are in relationship with OURSELVES. We are always in relationship…

We are energetic beings and the way we come across and the way we react and respond to others has a lot to do with energy. The frequency and energy we embody and give off directly affect all of our relationships…

One of the main challenges many of my clients face is an attraction to people who are unavailable. This usually occurs because we tend to be subconsciously drawn to what feels familiar and associate that familiarity with love…

We see the world through the lens of our belief system. Our belief system is shaped by our past experiences and past traumas. Because of this, no two people will experience something the exact same way…

We pay a heavy price for not taking 100% responsibility for our part in a dynamic – and the price is that we can’t change it. Pointing the finger at someone will lead them to point the finger back at you and then you are at a standstill. It is never all one person’s fault. Even if the other person is 90% responsible for their part, we are still 10% responsible for our part…

This has been a major topic in my life the past few months after my breakup. You know that time in-between what was and what will be? If you’re anything like me, you have a hard time letting go. It can be so challenging not to buy into the spiraling obsessive thoughts and wonder if it is, in fact, true that things are working out for my highest good, or if this is just some cruel cosmic joke. Breakups have a really good way of activating our past wounds/old stories.

When you enter into a new relationship it’s not just two people coming together. It’s two people’s childhoods, relationship histories, past traumas, and triggers and basically two different mental filters experiencing the dynamic…

We are energetic beings and we hold emotional energy from past experiences in our physical bodies. Many of us were not taught that it is okay and actually HEALTHY to feel our emotions. As a result many of us learned to suppress them and push them down in order to be loved or accepted…

We have been sold a bill of goods in our society that tells us that when we grow up and find a partner and live happily ever after. It’s the theme of almost every Disney movie and rom com we have ever watched and this messaging gets into our subconscious mind and many of us have been wandering from relationship to relationship seeking that perfect fantasy that doesn’t exist…

You can have the deepest intention to show up as your best self in love — but at some point, you're going to get triggered. You’re going to say something you didn’t mean, shut down, or react in a way that causes disconnection instead of closeness.

One of the biggest issues I see in my work with individuals and couples with relational challenges is the tendency for us to focus on what the other person is doing/not doing. 

We need THEM to show up differently so that WE can be okay. We become hyper-focused on their issues which conveniently takes the focus off of our own part, which (spoiler alert) is the ONLY thing we can actually change or control – OUR PART!

Within any painful dynamic is a profound opportunity for healing and liberation. Whatever is showing up in our lives and creating pain is revealing to us the places and spaces within us where we are not yet free…

We humans are meaning-making machines. We see the world through the lens of our own personal belief system and then we give it meaning. The way we interpret things in the present moment is determined by our past experiences…